For Better or For Worse. Discovering your spouse's abuse may seem like it is worse for you once the door to darkness has been opened. It is not the time to abandon your partner. For better or worse is a committment your CSA victim spouse needs to see in words and action.
You will find out you are not alone. In addition to the Book and Video links on the menu, another book specifically for Secondary Victims (spouses and families experiencing secondary abuse trauma effects and emotions) is called Haunted Marriage, referred to us by Dr. David Clarke of David Clarke Seminars.
Do not expect your partner who is healing to heal quickly or perfectly: they will always be a victim, and this is the reality and plan God has for your marriage. Grow strong where you have been entrusted to be for yourself, your spouse, and your family.